I am a 23 year old housewife…I feel so useless sometimes…I don’t have to work because my husband…?


Makes plenty of money, and he doesn’t really want me to work which is fine with me because I have never really had a good work ethic about me. (Please don’t criticize me about that!)

I just sometimes feel useless, and really bored. My typical day goes like this-
I get up anywhere from 9AM-11AM. Usually…

God, girl — go VOLUNTEER!!! Find something that interests you and do some volunteer work. You need to get your mind off YOURSELF — plus it will make you feel useful, not useless. And you will be a more interesting person to your husband and friends.

You could also take a class or two in something that interests you — photography, whatever. Get a hobby.

You have a great life — now go DO something with it.

Nice that you got all that out there. And not to be mean or judgmental sounding (because I’m not trying to be its my way as well). But I think you should actually get a job and learn to do some of the things you aren’t good at. Especially the cooking. I mean its cool to go out to eat but, seriously fast food only leads to health problems down the road, and spending so much money a week when you could be saving it up for something worthwhile is senseless to me. Another thing is if you don’t have kids, then I don’t believe you should just be sitting at home. I mean no wonder you are bored. It doesn’t take all that much effort to do simple laundry and what not. But again as you said ” I just sometimes feel useless, and really bored.” I think that is a clear message you need to take some action and do something with your life. I mean even if you don’t have that great a work ethic, I say work on that. Because even though your husband has a great job now, who knows he might get laid off, so you will need to pick up the slack. Or even if you have kids, what if you and the husband get a divorce? You have to work to support them too as well as yourself. So again not trying to sound judgmental or negative towards you, but really you need to set some priorities. All things may seem good right now and what not. But things change with the snap of your fingers. And you can’t be one to sit back and say you don’t know what you are going to do if he divorces you or he loses his job. A marriage is a partnership, not one person doing all the work and another sitting around being deadweight.

You don`t work, u don`t cook, u have poor work ethics, wonder why u feel useless. My God, the term, “get a life” surely applies to you. Instead of hanging out with the g/f`s, why don`t u volunteer at a local nursing home where u could at least do minimal chores for the poor elderly people who can`t write letters to loved ones or just spend time talking to them. Another place where u could be of some use is ur local animal shelter, walk the dogs, help feed them, give them some much needed attention, combing, brushing, etc. Do something beside occupy space and breathe air. Get up off ur lazy bum and volunteer for something. U don`t have to have a 9 to 5 job, but u can be productive in other ways by helping those less fortunate than you. Get motivated girl.

I’m glad you’re able to spend time with some friends throughout the week. I understand your feelings of wanting to do your part in this world. You’re definitely not a loser simply being at home a lot. One thing you can do to get more involved is right here at Answers. Helping others is a passion of mine. A lot of people have a lot of serious questions and problems. If you’re there to talk things through and help out, it can do a hell of a lot. It’s beyond a hobby because you’re bettering another person’s life. It’s not the variety of things we do that help fulfill our lives but the reason we do things and the effect those things have on ourselves and everything else. We can talk more about it or just talk about anything, if you’d like. Just send me an e-mail. I have instant messengers as well, so we could chat through that.

Heath

Volunteer somewhere. Look into Big Sisters. Take your old magazines somewhere that they can be useful: nursing home, school for the mentally challenged (at the one near here they use the pictures), help someone learn to read, offer to do some clerical work at your church, visit someone in the hospital, mow the yard of someone who’s been sick, walk around your neighborhood and get to know more of your neighbors, set up a party for low-income children, etc. Look around your community and see who needs help. Ask around. It’s almost winter and temperatures are going down, how about setting up a coat and/or blanket drive to help the homeless? You don’t seem as if you have a ‘purpose’ to your life, you need something to aim for. Helping others less fortunate will make you feel like a hero!

well if you’re doing all the household chores then you ARE contributing. he does his part by going and working and making the money and all. and you do your part by taking care of the household that you both live in. so you ARE contributing. but i can understand your boredom. maybe find some kind of hobby? or volunteer somewhere? get involved with a good cause or something like that maybe? other than that i cant really think of anything but getting a job. maybe even a part time one. it would help you contribute financially, get you out of the house, kill some time and keep you from being so bored. maybe start a workout program? i dont know. im trying my best to come up with something. ;P

It sounds as though you are in a rut and a boring one at that. There must be something you want to do, some interest or talent you want to develop. Where do you plan to be in 5 years? Still doing the same? For many people it’s not easy to know what they want from life or what they want to do with their lives. If you aren’t sure just try something, anything, new-sports, hobbies, take a class or two, help out at some charity, just get out of the house and do something. At the moment you are just killing time and time is the raw material of our lives.

I can relate. I stay home as well, though my reasons are slightly different. For awhile I thought I’d go out of my mind. But having hobbies definitely helps. I keep an aquarium, and have my darling chihuahuas. My most recent hobby is sewing clothes for my little girl Chihuahua. Other hobbies I’ve had and still dabble in from time to time, web design, machine embroidery pattern design, memorizing I Love Lucy, lol, j/k on that one. but seriously, my husband took me to hobby lobby a few monthes ago, and told me I needed a hobby. I looked thru the whole damn store, didn’t find anything. Let it simmer abit, and decided I wanted to dress my chihuahua. I’ve been having a blast ever since, and the days fly by! So explore your interests, and don’t let others get you down, as they aren’t in your shoes!

Look , as to your statement , many many ladies out there would love to be in your shoes . But for them , here is a good example that , life is not that rosy over here too !!!!
1 > what you should do, is to take up exotic cooking lessons and prepare those dishes for your husband , Friends and family.
You will get a satisfaction as to what you are capable of!!!
2 > Gym exercise to maintain your figure so as to rub shoulders with high society. Driving skills , swimming etc.
3 > Others social , beneficial activities if you wish .
All in all , answer the question – What are you capable / fit for ?? Then it will enlighten you.

WOW there is sum1 out there feelin’ the same as me. Ive been with him for 4 years married 3 years. The one thing I would and could recommend is volunteering. There is always someone out there that may use and need your help. I think if your husband is not complaining about you not working and “contributing” then dont have any bad feelings towards yourself. He sees it as you contributing in other ways. Like you said you do the house chores that is considered work. Dont be so hard on yourself , you did the first thing and reached out. Take care girl

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