Been thinking a lot about this lately because my mind has been made up for some time now (about leaving the JWs). To say that this has been a tough choice is a huge understatement.
I am still strong in faith and really only want to follow what’s right…it’s for the reason of this truth that I’m…
Hey Brother P! Thanks for your story! I left JWs 3 years ago after being in for 28 or so. It’s a huge undertaking. They don’t let you leave quietly, do they? My wife told me this morning, “They are like a gang. They have to jump you out!” It’s true. They take away everything important to you. It really is emotional blackmail.
Take it slow and one step at a time. Be convinced that this is the right course. Continue to do your research about the organization and it will strengthen your conviction. They will warn you to stop reading anything that exposes them. But be detirmined to follow REAL truth wherever it leads you. You will probably get some current JWs commenting on this question. Remember, they are not evil bad people. Just lost and confused. They have not been allowed to fully investigate their faith. They can only look at one side of the picture.
About your upcoming judicial committee, some have recorded them, and you can listen/watch and see what to expect. I will post some links in the sources. There are also a few sites with some exJW experiences that have helped me A TON!!! I’ll post those links in the sources too. If you ever want to talk to someone that has been through what you are going through, you can email me at email@example.com
ADDITIONAL: Sunshine said something that some JWs believe, and others lie about. She said: “As long as you haven’t been having sex outside marriage or any other gross sin, you will NOT be disfellowshipped”. You probably know this is a lie. You can be disfellowshiped for merely believing something different than the Watchtower teaches. Here is a link to a letter sent to all Circuit Overseers that directly prove the lie that sunshine told you: http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/2741/2951/1600/Protect-the-flock-p1.jpg
The youtube videos below will give an example of this. You will have some supposedly concerned JWs that try to act like they feel for you. But remember, they are just trying to bring you back into the cult. That’s what cults do. They try to lure you back in, and if you don’t respond, they shoot their wounded.
They’re a cult, you need to be big and get out and start following Jehovah, not an organization.
It is very true. There is no sense in pretending. There will be a time when all of our faiths will be tested beyond what we can imagine. If you do not stand and have trust in Jehovah and his arrangements, you will not last. The Great Tribulation and Armageddon is coming and it will be a test for all of all faiths. Who will stand? We only know by our own convictions and how well our faith has stood beyond all trials and tribulations that we experience NOW. Your friends that support you here, I do hope they will support you in the future. We all need and will need that strong spiritual support just like Moses provided for the Israelite when they had their backs against the red sea and they can hear the horses and chariots speeding towards them with hate in their eyes. In Exodus Moses said “Stand and see the salvation of Jehovah”. Will you be standing with others, like your support group on here and be able to say that? As a group?
Paul says “This mandate I commit to you, child, Timothy, in accord with the predictions that led directly on to you, that by these you may go on waging the fine warfare; 19 holding faith and a good conscience, which some have thrust aside and have experienced shipwreck concerning [their] faith. 20 Hy·me·nae′us and Alexander belong to these, and I have handed them over to Satan that they may be taught by discipline not to blaspheme”
You have made up your mind and I say “Go”. Your faith has experienced shipwreck. Is it beyond repair? No. I do know your friends and family really do love you and are only looking out for your spiritual well being. They love Jehovah. (You haven’t mentioned much about Jehovah where you want your relationship to be with him after you leave). As the apostles said to Jesus “Where will we go? You have the sayings of everlasting life?” I am sure your friends have already provided you a spiritual means to get you to that everlasting life – on that road. So I say “Be on your way”. The hurt your family will feel is not hurt for themselves, but hurt for Jehovah for it is him you are turning your back on. Ask your friends have they become closer to God than ever before since they have left. Oh – I think some are Atheist/Agnostic now.
The problem I have with questions such as this is that I honestly have a hard time believing you are really an active witness. WHY OH WHY OH WHY must you come to the Web to air such things? If you are for real, then you know what you need to do. Get off this forum and talk to someone close to you in the congregation, talk to your family and approach the elders.
If I’m wrong and you are a real witness, then I advise you to stop reading apostate material and repeating it, unless you want to carry a huge grudge and remain bitter for many many years.
You know the answer isn’t here. I don’t mean to be rude, this comes from someone who is very suspicious of the majority on this forum, and with good reason.
Shame my dear brother 🙁 I’m very sorry to hear what you are going through 🙁
The good news is that maybe they will not be as disappointed in you as you might think. If they all truly love you then they will still always be there for you no matter what and will have compassion on you no matter what, like brothers and sisters should 🙂 No where in the Bible does it say that we are to belong to any man-made sect 🙂
According to scripture, as long as we are all one in Christ and have the Holy Spirit in us, we are brothers and sisters, and as brothers and sisters we are commanded to love one another and have tender mercies for one another as love is extremely important to our heavenly Father 🙂
“Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” Colossians 3: 12
“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clinging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13: 1-2
“If I gave everything I had to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13: 3
“Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God.” 1 John 4: 7
“God is love and all who live in love lives in God, and God lives in them. And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect.” 1 John 4: 16
“Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. Our actions will show that we belong to the truth, so we will be confident when we stand before God.” 1 John 3: 18-19
“This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.” 1 John 3: 16
I am a Witness. However, 30 years ago I did stop being a Witnesses. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done in my life. But, after a few years of experiencing what the other side had to offer, I realized what a great mistake I had made.
I began to realized how unproductive my life was. I also saw how useless and dangerous living outside of God’s organization really was and so I began to correct my thinking and actions and found my way back. I will always have regrets about all that I lost when I left the safety, brotherhood and activity of the Christian congregation. Yet, I am continually thankful that I did not suffer permanent damage and that I can now help others who have left and now realize what a terrible mistake it was.
My best recommendation would be for you to immediately do what you need to do to repair your relationship with Jehovah, your family and the Christian congregation. I did and I have no regrets.
I am also thankful that I did not blame the organization or other Witnesses for the incorrect actions of a couple of individuals. Many elders reached out to me and when I was ready helped me in every way possible.
So, the response that every individual Witness gives is exactly what the twelve Apostles gave when so many left off following Christ: “Jesus said to the twelve: ‘You do not want to go also, do you?’ Simon Peter answered him: ‘Lord, whom shall we go away to? You have sayings of everlasting life'” (Jn. 6:67-69).
The truth of the matter is that any individual who does not continue to seriously examine their beliefs in light of the Scriptures will not remain a Witnesses. They will go back to the war-mongering, sectarian, immoral, tickle your ears religions of Christendom (2Pt.2:22; 2Tim. 4:3,4;).
God’s description in 2Pet.2:19-22 is accurate. Those who leave the True Christian Congregation either abandon Christian morals themselves or become guilty by association. Literally or spiritually they are debased.
Those who leave the Witnesses leave a vibrant, growing, active and truly Christian organization. Now they have withered up and become dispersed in various religions who’s followers cannot even agree on the most simple of Bible doctrines. Those who have left the Witnesses worship with and make common cause with Religions which turn a blind eye, or outright allow, homosexuals, fornicators and adulterers to be accepted members of their congregations. These religions also allow their members to drop bombs even on fellow “Christians.” All this conclusively demonstrates that those who leave the Witnesses lose the support of God’s Holy Spirit.
On the other hand, Jehovah’s Witnesses give evidence that they are that present day organization by their strictly following Scriptural truth and by their fruitage (Mat.7:16-19; Jn.13:34,35).
It is evident from your answer to this question; not easy to decipher since you were speaking in circles and not making much sense, that your thinking is NOT in harmony with God’s thinking and this would be evident to ALL in the congregation. I also noticed you were throwing scriptures around, to try to justify your own selfish actions.
BTW when the Bible says to abstain from blood it means just that..if a doctor told you to abstain from alcohol would you reason that would be OK to take intravenously, no because that would be foolish. The fact that you would even take that stance with all the medical advancements in medicine concerning safer bloodless alternatives is staggering.
If there is any truth in this fabrication, which is most likely 99 % false, then it’s clear you left along time ago.
This post is all about you. You talk about the family & close friends but ultimately it’s all about you and what YOU WANT. When disciples of Christ walked away from him he did not address their concerns rather he looked at the 12 and asked”You for not want to go away also, do you?
Airing your so called lack of faith on the web says a lot about what a person is deep down..
** l stand by my response- l took the time to read your lengthy post and drew conclusions based on what you wrote, this is your post. You mention family and all the other issues but is it not what you want? what you have decided?
You say l am negative all the time? l have been here long enough to see BS coming a long way off.. your post betrays you..
” Will I survive Armageddon???”). Then you have your man made rules within the body of elders (“you’ve got to wear a suit jacket in order to have that privilege” “you’re a sister, you shouldn’t be wearing trousers!”) etc. Spirituality is fading big time (especially since they stopped the house book study where people could be closer in loving association with each other). It’s all formal and regimental with no substance other than “preach preach preach”. It just makes me angry to see faithful people made to feel like this when Jesus wanted to unburden the people.
You not a Witness.
I have question: I’m sure you believe the scripture that says “do not forsake the gathering of yourselves together” (Heb. 10:24, 25). So, if/when you leave where will you go for worship?
(John 6:68) . . .Simon Peter answered him: “Lord, whom shall we go away to? You have sayings of everlasting life;
After witnessing how the Witnesses act here on this open forum, I have zero interest in ever considering their religion a viable choice.
All sweet and friendly when they come to your home, but reveal a very judgemental dark side when enjoying the anonymity of the internet.
They even prayed for me in my home, yet revile and taunt me here. Why? Well I know the answer now.
Nothing like Jesus description of what a christian does.
Glad you are getting out.
You´re trying hard, friend. But you´re a poor actor1 I don´t buy any of your lies. You´re a big liar and a big impostor! You were never a Jehovah´s Witness!
And along with your delusional and stupid reasonings, learn one thing: The Governing Body is Jehovah´s arrangement not the Watchtower´s.